I just needed a hug

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Last night I accused my beloved fiancee of being a sociopath.

"What kind of person are you?" I screamed at him. Understandably, he was quite offended.

Having spent the afternoon lying in bed essentially wallowing in my own sadness, I was now more upset that he hadn't come to offer me some comfort.

It was only when he explained to me that he wasn't a bloody mind reader and that he had thought that I had wanted to be left alone that I realised I'm still not getting any better at communicating my needs to him.

And to think, only a few weeks ago it was me telling him he needs to work on his communication.

Pot. Kettle. Black.

Do you do this? Get frustrated when people can psychicly predict what you need emotionally? How do you overcome it?

Tough Life Lessons

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I haven’t blogged for a while because I have been adhering to my current blog philosophy – don’t blog unless you feel like it. I’ve had a tough week, with a hugely emotional thing happening to me which I vented onto Twitter.

I was both surprised and touched by the reaction that my personal crisis evoked from my Tweeps – many of them reached out to me to ask if I was ok, and offer a friendly shoulder or ear. This was despite the fact that I was doing something that I personally abhor, which is “vague-tweeting” (my own term, derived from the brilliant phrase “vague-booking” for those posts on Facebook that are obvious cries for attention).

I am not going to go into great detail of my crisis here on my blog, not being comfortable with airing my relationship laundry on the internet, but suffice to say, it felt like my sky was falling. In fact, those are my exact words to my partner when we were working things out.

It was horrible, confronting and emotionally draining. All I can say is, I’m glad it’s over. I learnt one important lesson though:

In relationships, always ASK. Never ACCUSE.

What relationship wisdom have you learnt the hard way?